I think it's time I did a post on etiquette, courtesy, and manners. A lot of people forget the basics of getting around in society, so here goes:
Conversation and the conveying of meaning:
1) The words "excuse" and "me" are very useful when put together. Especially if someone's in your way. And facing away from you, so they don't know you're there and wanting to get past them.
2) "Bless you" is appropriate when someone sneezes. Just say it, it won't do anyone any harm.
3) "Wha?" is not the nicest way of letting someone know you didn't understand them. At least put the "t" on the end if you can't actually be polite and say "I beg your pardon" or "Sorry?"
Niceness to others
1) Retail staff rarely know every single detail about every single product in their store. They are doing their best, so don't get mad at them for things they may not be able to help.
2) If you have misread a label, then it is not the fault of the staff. Don't take it out on them.
3) Restaurant and café staff handle your food and determine what goes into it. Don't piss them off.
Courtesy
1) Think of others before you act. Actually consider whether what you are about to do will impact other people. If you are unsure, then ask them. It is better to check than to have them be negatively affected and annoyed at you for causing it.
2) Offer to help if someone appears to need it. They may not take you up on the offer but, at far as manners go, offering it is as good as actually giving it.
3) Acknowledge when someone has done something nice or helpful for you. Recognition is a wonderful thing to receive, and think how good you'd feel to get it if the roles were reversed.
Being polite isn't difficult, and it makes the world a nicer place to be. You don't have to be dishonest to be polite; you just have to think.
Good sentiments.
ReplyDeletePoint 2 under 'conversation' is an interesting point from someone who is such an outspoken atheist.
:-P
It's convention :-p I also say "Gesondheit", i I feel like it :-p
ReplyDeleteTo my mind, "bless you" expresses sympathy, not theism.
ReplyDeleteI personally prefer 'Gesundheit' because it's etymology is not religious and it literally means '[to your] health'.
ReplyDeleteConcisely says what I want the person to know.
**grins**
I love how in Australian English "'scuse me" is actually more polite than "excuse me" in most circumstances.
ReplyDeleteAlso, yes. I handle your drinks - DON'T FUCKING PISS ME OFF, WANKER!!!!!